HEY. It’s been a while. I miss chatting with everyone here!
As a senior in high school (the last year), I’ll be sending in college applications pretty soon. I’m in a bit of a dilemma though; I don’t know whether or not I’m capable of moving away from my family.
I really want to go up north in California rather than stay down here. I hear that college is the last chance in your life when you’ll be able to live somewhere else, and that sounds exciting to me! I know nothing’s set in stone, but for now, I’m aiming to become a therapist and get a PhD in psychology, and there are great psychology programs up in north Cali. However, my mom thinks that it’s too far away, and while she’s fine with me living away in college dorms, she doesn’t see me as the type of person that can handle being by herself ~7 hours away from her family.
Honestly, this made me want total control over my college decisions, but she still has a point. I don’t know if I’m ready for that. My mom isn’t opposed to me having a gap year to get more comfortable with adult-ing, and I don’t feel like I have to go to a four year college right away, so I know I have my options. But I’d feel left behind and grossly immature compared to everyone else, and I already feel enough of that as is.
(My little brother also said “I don’t want her to go away!” and that made me want to cry )
My mom also doesn’t want me going to a California state university. This one frustrates me a lot, because she says that California state colleges don’t hold a lot of name value when it comes to looking for jobs (I’ve heard various things on this subject, though). She either wants me to go to a University of California school (all of those schools are reach schools for me) or a private college. Specifically Christian private colleges, but private colleges overall do seem nice.
TLDR; my main questions are:
What are the pros/cons of moving away for college and what would you have to prepare if you were to make the move?
How important is name value in colleges when applying for a job?
Opinions on gap years & junior colleges